Coming Out at 30, 40, or 50: It’s Never Too Late
Coming out in adulthood can be a powerful, liberating step—but it may also be accompanied by uncertainty, grief, and fear. Whether someone is questioning their sexual orientation, gender identity, or both, doing so at 30, 40, 50, or beyond is more common than many realize. Despite mainstream narratives that emphasize you
What Is My Attachment Style and Can I Change It?
Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with someone who just can’t seem to commit, or who gets jealous whenever you mention a new friend? Maybe, if you’re honest, you’ve noticed some of these patterns in yourself. Navigating the world of relationships can feel like a rollercoaster, especially when emotional baggage from the past keeps showing up.
ADHD 101: Understanding Key Terms
ADHD 101: Understanding Key Terms
ADHD is an acronym used for “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder”. It is a neurodevelopmental disorder- which means it affects how your brain develops and symptoms develop before the age of 12 years. It is typically marked by persistent patterns of inattention, difficulty focusing, and hyperactivity/impulsivity.
Communication Patterns and Mental Health: Why the Way We Talk Matters
Communication isn’t just about words—it’s about connection, safety, and emotional health. When communication breaks down, relationships suffer, and so does our mental well-being.
Why Do Small Things Sometimes Trigger Big Emotions? Understanding the "Wild Horse Effect"
Have you ever felt like your emotions were on a rollercoaster ride — one small thing can completely throw off your whole day?
Maybe your partner made a careless comment, or a professor gave vague feedback that felt like criticism. Maybe it was just the crowded bus ride home after a long day. Suddenly, you’re overwhelmed. You might snap at someone you care about or lose the motivation to finish that task due tomorrow. It’s like your entire day gets overturned by a single moment.
So why do such small things have the power to destroy our peacefulness?
There’s a psychological concept that really stuck with me when I came across it — it's called the “Wild Horse Effect.”
Stop Chasing the Snake: A Gentle Way to Heal
There’s a story I really like and often share with my clients when they’re caught in a spiral of self-blame or emotional overwhelm. It’s called the "Chasing the Snake" effect, and it’s one of those simple but powerful ideas that helps us reframe pain—and ultimately, heal from it.
Recovering From Codependency
Codependency is a learned behavior pattern of forsaking your own needs and wellbeing at the cost of prioritising others’ needs and wellbeing.
What is Regulation and How can we Regulate?
Emotional regulation or “regulation” means to be in a state of being able to manage and cope with your emotions. Developed by Dr. Dan Siegel, this zone exists when we are optimally aroused- that means stressors and challenges exist in our lives but we have the skills to overcome them or believe we have the skills to overcome them! You feel like you can deal with whatever is thrown at you and you are still functioning effectively.
Are Mindfulness and Grounding Skills Same?
I often teach and practice mindfulness and grounding exercises in therapy sessions. When I initially started to use mindfulness-based techniques in therapy with clients, I used to use these two terms interchangeably (and sometimes they can be used interchangeably!). Over time I’ve realised differences between the two and why it can be helpful to understand them so we can understand which skill to use when.
Resources for Those Considering The ENM Lifestyle
Non monogamous relationships are on the rise especially in the younger adults and growing numbers of individuals are showing an interest in and practicing ethical non-monogamy. From dating apps allowing users to indicate their preference for non-monogamy, to dating apps specifically created for those practicing in the ENM lifestyle (Feeld), and ENM being represented more in pop culture, more people want to learn and understand this age-old relational structure.
Addressing Childhood Trauma: Therapeutic Approaches That Work
Childhood experiences shape who we are, but when those experiences include trauma, they can leave lasting scars.
